"Anger is so often a byproduct of helplessness because your needs are not expressed...
You have a right to ask for what you want, even though you may not get it."

- Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning -

"Bad behavior stems from unmet needs."

- Unknown -

"Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past."

- Lily Tomlin -

"Reconciling the erotic and the domestic is not a problem to solve but a paradox to manage."

- Esther Perel -

"The reason we're not often there for others...is that we're not there for ourselves."

- Pema Chodron -

"The power of a secret is that it wants to be told."

- Unknown -

"Intrinsic motivation for change arises in an accepting, empowering atmosphere that makes it safe for the person to explore the...present."

- William Miller & Stephen Rollnick -

"It is not difficult for a careful observer to see the evidence for unconscious processes in other people; it is harder to grasp the reality that we ourselves are inhabited and moved by forces beyond our access or control."

- Nancy McWilliams -

"People are more than the worst thing they have ever done in their lives."

- Sister Helen Prejean -

"As long as you're wanting to be thinner, smarter, more enlightened, less uptight, or whatever it might be,
somehow you're always going to be approaching your problem with the very same logic that created it...
that you're not good enough."

- Pema Chodron -

"What we resist, persists."

- Traditional -

"I have never heard of nothing coming from hard work."

- Uzo Aduba -

Resources

Books

Relationships
  • Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch
  • Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
  • 10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage by John Gottman
  • Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist by Margalis Fjelstad
  • The Rough Patch: Midlife and the Art of Living Together by Daphne de Marneffe
Gender Identity
  • Just Add Hormones by Matt Kailey (memoir)
  • Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg (fiction)
  • Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides (fiction)
  • Trans Bodies, Trans Selves edited by Laura Erickson-Schroth
Family Relationships
  • Leaving Home by David P. Celani
  • Are You My Mother? by Alison Bechdel
  • The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey
Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy
  • Psychoanalytic Diagnosis by Nancy McWilliams
  • Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy by Nancy McWilliams
Mindfulness
  • Start Where You Are by Pema Chodron
  • The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh
Making Changes
  • Motivational Interviewing by William R. Miller & Stephen Rollnick
Depression & Self-Esteem
  • Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning
  • Anorexia Workbook by Michelle Heffner & Georg H. Eifert

Health Care

For a comprehensive list of resources related to gender transition, please contact therapist directly.

Mental Health and Psychiatric Emergencies

Psychiatric Emergency Services

  • 512-472-HELP
  • 911 – Ask for a Mental Health Officer – they have special training in assessing mental health conditions and can help connect you to appropriate services.
  • Shoal Creek Hospital
  • Austin Lakes Hospital
  • Austin State Hospital (ASH) – a resource if you do not have health insurance
  • Trevor Lifeline, a suicide prevention hotline for young people – 866-488-7386