"What we resist, persists."

- Traditional -

"The power of a secret is that it wants to be told."

- Unknown -

"I have never heard of nothing coming from hard work."

- Uzo Aduba -

"Anger is so often a byproduct of helplessness because your needs are not expressed...
You have a right to ask for what you want, even though you may not get it."

- Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning -

"As long as you're wanting to be thinner, smarter, more enlightened, less uptight, or whatever it might be,
somehow you're always going to be approaching your problem with the very same logic that created it...
that you're not good enough."

- Pema Chodron -

"People are more than the worst thing they have ever done in their lives."

- Sister Helen Prejean -

"Forgiveness means giving up all hope for a better past."

- Lily Tomlin -

"It is not difficult for a careful observer to see the evidence for unconscious processes in other people; it is harder to grasp the reality that we ourselves are inhabited and moved by forces beyond our access or control."

- Nancy McWilliams -

"Bad behavior stems from unmet needs."

- Unknown -

"Intrinsic motivation for change arises in an accepting, empowering atmosphere that makes it safe for the person to explore the...present."

- William Miller & Stephen Rollnick -

"The reason we're not often there for others...is that we're not there for ourselves."

- Pema Chodron -

"Reconciling the erotic and the domestic is not a problem to solve but a paradox to manage."

- Esther Perel -

Resources

Books

Relationships

Passionate Marriage by David Schnarch
Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel
10 Lessons to Transform Your Marriage by John Gottman
Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist by Margalis Fjelstad
The Rough Patch: Midlife and the Art of Living Together by Daphne de Marneffe

Gender Identity

Just Add Hormones by Matt Kailey (memoir)
Stone Butch Blues by Leslie Feinberg (fiction)
Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides (fiction)
Trans Bodies, Trans Selves edited by Laura Erickson-Schroth

Family Relationships

Leaving Home by David P. Celani
Are You My Mother? by Alison Bechdel
The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed by Jessica Lahey

Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy

Psychoanalytic Diagnosis by Nancy McWilliams
Psychoanalytic Psychotherapy by Nancy McWilliams

Mindfulness

Start Where You Are by Pema Chodron
The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh

Making Changes

Motivational Interviewing by William R. Miller & Stephen Rollnick

Depression & Self-Esteem

Self-Esteem by Matthew McKay & Patrick Fanning
Anorexia Workbook by Michelle Heffner & Georg H. Eifert

Health Care

For a comprehensive list of resources related to gender transition, please contact therapist directly.

Audio Learning & Podcasts

Low-Cost and/or Sliding Fee Scale Therapy

HIV/AIDS and STI Services

All are low cost or free and LGBTQ friendly unless otherwise noted.

Mental Health and Psychiatric Emergencies

Psychiatric Emergency Services

512-472-HELP
911 – Ask for a Mental Health Officer – they have special training in assessing mental health conditions and can help connect you to appropriate services.
Shoal Creek Hospital
Austin Lakes Hospital
Austin State Hospital (ASH) – a resource if you do not have health insurance
Trevor Lifeline, a suicide prevention hotline for young people – 866-488-7386

In-School Mental Health Resources

Communities in Schools (CIS)

Gender Identity and Sexual Orientation-Related Resources

Central Texas Transgender Health Coalition
Out Youth
Gender and Sexuality Center at UT
The GSA Network
Austin Child Guidance Center
Gender Spectrum
Transgender Education Network of Texas (TENT)
The World Professional Association for Transgender Health
“About a Boy” by Margaret Talbot in The New Yorker Magazine, March 18, 2013.